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  In the modern age, the fear that women will become so addicted to toys manifests in memes comparing sex toys to partners, or even Cardi B in Hustlers boasting that her pink vibrator is the best and only boyfriend she will ever need. Mashable Image The Fin is a life-changing partnered sex vibrator. Scroll to the end for a full review. Credit: Mashable Composite: Dame / Bob Al-Greene / Mashable Women in heterosexual relationships still often worry that asking to introduce a vibrator or toy into the bedroom will make their partner feel emasculated. In his work with couples, though, Kerner has never found this to be the case, with “most men seeming very receptive to wanting to create experiences that are mutually pleasurable.” If that’s a particular worry, though, partnered sex toys can alleviate the stress of making it about your pleasure alone.

  The highly-rated (and also woman co-founded) Crescendo from MysteryVibe is ideal for beginners looking for versatility, designed for solo or partnered play, various positions, and various bodies and sexual orientations, too. For me, something as ingeniously simple, unintimidating, and Intuitive as Dame’s Fin was nothing short of revolutionary, leading to my first simultaneous orgasm with a partner ever. “The new wave of sex toys have opened people up to the idea that toys and masturbation are not in opposition to a relationship. It’s not one or the other. Women don’t have a limited amount of sexual energy,” said Lieberman. Still, the myth of sex toy “addiction” or that vibrators cause permanent desensitization or make it impossible to cum any other way persists. Luckily, there is zero empirical evidence to support these concerns. "Women don’t have a limited amount of sexual energy.” What’s funny, Lieberman noted, is that concerns over vibrators being addictive only started in the 1930s, once sex toys began being openly sold in markets rather than controlled by doctors. That’s when the concept of “dildo attachment” came into the conversation, which claimed to make women stop wanting sex with their husbands.

  At worst, Kerner said, vigorous habitual use of a sex toy can simply cause over-familiarity with that specific intense sensation that can’t be replicated by a person. But that’s no different than men who develop difficulty climaxing during intercourse because they masturbate with a very tight grip that can’t be replicated during penetration. Both are easily fixed with a simple break. “Just stop using it for a few days. It’s not heroin. You can put it to the side, and use your hand or go manual with your partner, and it will return to being just as pleasurable,” said Lieberman. One legitimate health concern, however, relates to the type of material used for sex toys. Rodriguez emphasized the importance of medical-grade rather than food-grade silicone, since they often go inside the most absorbent parts of your body. Be very wary of buying anything on Amazon, which often sells knock offs. On the other hand (pun intended), what more masturbation can do is actually improve your capacity to orgasm in general, and give you the space to learn exactly what kind of touch and sensations you like, which you can then communicate to your partner. But outside of its benefits in partnered sex, the power of sex toys is about rediscovering what pleasure means and feels like to you alone. Mashable Image Vibe is one of the cheapest, most beloved beginner toys. Scroll to the end for a full review. Credit: Mashable Composite: Maude / Bob Al-Greene / MASHABLE “I think masturbation is one of the healthiest things we can do when it comes to understanding and appreciating our bodies. For me, and for many in our community, self-pleasure helps us reclaim our bodies for ourselves,” said Rodriguez.

  At 21, she underwent menopause after a cancer diagnosis and dealt with feeling estranged from her body. “For many who experience trauma, it can be a truly healing process to redefine your sexuality for yourself.” Another more practical concern for first-time sex toy buyers, found in both the TENGA survey and Unbound’s own community survey, was price. Quality toys can be an investment, and the sheer variety of different types, sensations, and textures can feel paralyzing when you have no reference point for what you like. That’s why the best first toys are reasonably priced, straightforward, and versatile (scroll to the bottom for our best recommendations). People with labias often find the most success when starting with clitoral stimulators like bullets or lipstick vibes. Unbound has a quarterly, affordable subscription box designed for newbies trying to expand their erotic repertoire.

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  One revolutionary policy Dame made in order to help get over this barrier to entry goes radically against a key industry-standard: They accept returns. (Unbound accepts partial returns for used toys). “First of all, be proud of yourself for buying the toy.” Their policy changed after CEO Alexandra Fine and her co-founder reevaluated the reasons behind this industry standard, which claims that returns are unhygienic. But the more they thought about it, it became clear that other companies accepted returns despite their product being unhygienic to resell, like Casper mattresses and Thinx panties. “What that kind of policy is almost saying is, ‘Hey, your vagina is disgusting. Obviously, we can’t take returns.’ That in itself has shame built into it, and is counter to us creating a shame-free experience,” said Fine. “We want you to feel comfortable letting us know that something didn't work for you. Then, we can help you find something that does.” Still, even when we can get over all those initial walls of shame and finally buy a sex toy, it’s very normal to then face a whole other wave of shame while actually using it. But there are lots of ways to get past that, too.

  “First of all, be proud of yourself for buying the toy,” said Lieberman. “Then, accept that your first few experiences may be awkward. I mean, what was your first experience of sex with another person like? You don’t know what you’re doing. It's a new technology that you're learning. It could even feel weird at first if you've never had something vibrating on your genitals. That's OK, too.” Try everything alone first, and on the lowest power setting first — possibly even over your panties or even a towel for clitoral stimulators. People vary on level of sensitivity. Mashable Image Vesper's a gorgeous necklace/vibrator confronts the sex toy taboo head-on. Scroll to end for a full review. Credit: Mashable Composite: Crave / Bob Al-Greene / MASHABLE Overall, one of the best pieces of advice I ever got while joining the sex toy revolution is to treat each new toy like a new sexual partner. Give yourself time to learn how it fits your body, or whether it’s a good match at all. View your early experiences as exploratory rather than setting the expectation to cum, which puts undue pressure on you and your new friend. And honestly, unless you’ve purchased from one of these new women, femme, and non-binary-led sex toy makers, do your best to ignore the marketing and promises on the packaging. Often, you’ll find images of scantily clad women that project a false picture of what masturbation looks like. In reality, it looks more like you in pajamas and a face mask.

  Even more importantly, do not believe in the promises of an instantaneous, guaranteed, melt-your-face off orgasm. Again, every body is different, and it’s normal for something that works for most to not work for you. If you’re confused about how to use it (since many manuals are woefully lacking), educate yourself online with reviews that paint more vivid pictures. Many of the companies that are revolutionizing sex toys also provide well-written blogs and step-by-step guides for their toys. "Me Too let people — especially women — feel more comfortable expressing their need, their demand for sexual pleasure." Underlying the new sex toy revolution is a movement that believes pleasure and satisfaction should be a human right. Closely tied to that movement is another one that started in 2017, which finally allowed women to start talking about the ways sex made them feel ashamed, traumatized, and silenced. “The rise of talking about sexual assault from Me Too let people — especially women — feel more comfortable expressing their need, their demand for sexual pleasure,” said Lieberman. It’s deeply unsettling (perhaps even related) that, in the midst of this sexual wellness revolution, we’re seeing a vicious legal backlash trying to strip women of basic rights over their own bodies. Whether it’s challenges to Roe v. Wade, other increasingly restrictive abortion laws, or less access to birth control, “at the bottom of it all is people preventing women from having sex without consequence. It’s the belief that sexual pleasure isn't good in and of itself for women unless it’s to procreate,” said Lieberman.

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  While it might seem silly (and obviously, different forms of activism are needed to counteract these serious threats), there is power in reclaiming at least one form of control over your body by exercising your right to pleasure with a toy. “My suggestion is to just give it a try,” said Rodriguez. “I have yet to hear from someone who, after trying a vibrator, regrets it. It’s all about just giving yourself permission to explore — and you are the only one who needs to grant yourself permission, to say ‘yes’ to pleasure. Trust me, you deserve it. We all do.” Maude Minimalist, inexpensive, yet powerful, the Vibe’s exquisitely accessible design made it an instant hit for a reason. Its simplicity doesn’t sacrifice function, with a reputation for getting the job done fast. Able to be used externally or internally, it’s the most bang for your buck (and boy, does that buck go).

  Mystery Vibe A Swiss Army Knife of toys, this bendable, inclusive powerhouse justifies its price by letting you experiment in countless ways (their Playbook has some ideas). One con is its overwhelming app with a paralyzing amount of customization options. Like all Bluetooth-enabled toys, it drops connection often, so just preset your favorite patterns onto the vibe. Though I didn't try it, Unbound’s Bender might be a cheaper, simpler alternative for a similar concept. Crave Break the sex toy taboo with a gorgeous necklace that's also a pinpoint clitoral stimulator designed to get you off wherever and whenever you want. Wearing the Vesper turns your shame into an unapologetic pride. While not the most powerful, it's perfect for those nervous about introducing toys into partnered sex since unscrewing it from your necklace is sexier than fumbling for one in your bedside table. Dame

  In a word: life-changing. The simple genius of the Fin is that it puts the power of a bullet between your fingers, making it seamless to use in any position during penetrative sex and one of the best toys for closing the orgasm gap. Despite access to countless other vibrators 4 times more expensive, I dubbed Fin “old faithful,” cause I could always count on it like clockwork to deliver a geyser-level explosion. Tango We-Vibe A personal favorite as my first vibe ever, the Tango’s been a classic, powerful, beloved bullet for years that's simple and gets the job done. If you're more sensitive to vibration, prefer the soft silicone feel, more fluttering sensation, or an adjustable tip, try Dame’s equally great Kip.

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  Womanizer Worst name for one of the greatest gifts to clitorises, this legend uses suction instead of vibration. Lining it up is tricky at first, but once I did, the orgasm ripped forth from my body in seconds along with an involuntary scream. No toy is a guarantee for all, but this is the closest and an alternative for those not jiving with vibing. Premium includes a quiet motor and autopilot mode perfect for newbies. But cheaper models don’t disappoint. We-Vibe Honestly, I wouldn’t recommend rabbits for beginners because they look intimidating, are a bit unwieldy to figure out at first, and often not all they’re cracked up to be. But since it’s one of the most popular and well-known types, I suggest one of the only ones I found with enough bend, power, and adjustability to provide the amount of clitoral stimulation needed for a variety of bodies. All products featured on GQ are independently selected by our editors. However, when you buy something through our retail links, we may earn an affiliate commission.

  No matter how adventurous you and your partner(s) are, the best sex toys for couples will bring some hot sauce to your coupled sex life. But we don't have to tell you that: The fact that you've landed here means you've blessedly evolved beyond the dusty, misguided notion that even the best sex toys for couples somehow mark you (or your sex life) as deficient. This is good. Even if your between-the-sheets time needs a kick-start, there's exactly zero shame bundled into using these products. (If you're a first-timer looking for some rookie tips, we've got a helpful guide for getting into sex toys. And if you're looking for some solo sex toys, we've got you covered there, too.) Here's why you should care about bringing sex toys into the bedroom, even if everything's [mind-exploding emoji]: because she'll enjoy herself more. A 2017 study noted that 37 percent of women need clitoral stimulation (and not just penetration) to reach the summit of Mt. Orgasm. Adding a vibrator to the mix proves you know how the female body works, and that you're as turned on by her pleasure as you are by her body. It proves you're confident, and adventurous, and an all-around thoughtful partner. (And if all this sounds more hetero than you're looking for, check out our roundup of the best sex toys for men.)

  Mant of the best sex toys for couples have clitorises in mind, or incorporate some anal play (try it!). But there are more toys for penises coming onto the market every day, too. They’re available with speedy and discreet shipping from companies like Amazon and specialty retailers like Babeland and Lovehoney. Check out a variety of tested-and-proven toys—from vibrators that double as high-end jewelry to prostate pleasurers—and give your bedroom the gift of some truly earth-shattering orgasms. The Best Hands-Free Vibrator: We-Vibe Sync Many other companies have tried to riff on We-Vibe's signature C-shaped vibrator design, but the original is still the best of the best. Meant to be "worn" vaginally during intercourse, the We-Vibe stimulates both partners at once, for stellar (and possibly simultaneous) orgasms. This model has two hinges at its center, so you can adjust it to achieve your perfect fit. Image may contain: Electronics, Hardware, Computer, Mouse, Cell Phone, Mobile Phone, and Phone We-Vibe Sync

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 The Best Stroking Toy: Fleshlight Quickshot Fleshlight is the biggest name in the stroker game, and for good reason: the ribbed texture inside this one is ultra-stimulating. The Quickshot differs from your standard Fleshlight, though, in that it's open on both ends—which makes cleanup less messy and annoying, and also means a partner can use this toy on the base of your shaft while giving you oral sex. Image may contain: Crystal, Glass, Nature, and Outdoors Fleshlight Quickshot

 SheVibe Buy Now The Best Pow-Profile Toy: We-Vibe Melt This petite toy uses rhythmic pulses of air to create clitoral sensations that mimic great oral sex—but unlike many other toys with this technology, the We-Vibe Melt is slim enough to slip between bodies easily during penetrative sex, for the ultimate blended orgasm. Image may contain: Cell Phone, Electronics, Mobile Phone, and Phone We-Vibe Melt $149 Lovehoney Buy Now The Best Vibrating Cock Ring: Tenga SVR This vibrating cock ring has a deep, satisfying motor, which enhances sensation for both partners when the vibrating part hits the clitoris or perineum during penetrative sex. You can also slip your fingers through the loop and use them to penetrate a partner while the vibrator stimulates their external bits. How handy!

 Image may contain: Tool Tenga SVR $90$72 Lovehoney Buy Now The Best Couples Vibrator: Hot Octopuss Pulse III Duo This vibrator curves around your shaft, stimulating all its most sensitive spots whether you're erect or flaccid. Best of all, the underside of the toy vibrates as well, so your partner can grind against it while you use it. If you love dry-humping but would love it more if it were, well, less "dry," this is the toy for you! Hot Octopuss Pulse III Duo $149 SheVibe Buy Now The Best Strap-On: Tantus Beginner's Strap-On Kit Curious about pegging? This kit will get you started: it comes with an adjustable harness, two differently-sized dildos (including one super-small one for total newbies to butt stuff), and a bullet vibe you can slip behind the dildo to make sure you both enjoy yourselves. Throw some water-based lube into the mix and you're good to go!

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 Tantus Beginner's Strap-On Kit $90 Lovehoney Buy Now The Best Finger Vibrator: Fin Vibrator The Fin is an easy way to take simple fingering to the next level. Wrap it around your fingers, and bam, now your fingers can vibrate. Add a dab of lube and get to business. Fin vibrator for fingers $85 Amazon Buy Now The Best Sex Toy for Clitoral and G-Spot Stimulation: Womanizer Red Duo Yes, this clitoral and G-spot stimulator is expensive, but can you put a price on Earth-shattering orgasms? The silicone Womanizer Duo does exactly what it's supposed to, and it does it well. Once you've hit the right spots simply keep applying pressure until the pleasure commences.

 Image may contain: Appliance Womanizer Red Duo Rechargeable G-Spot and Clitoral Stimulator $220 Lovehoney Buy Now The Best Stealth Sex Toy for Couples: Crave Vesper No crude dildo shapes here: with the press of a discreet button, this necklace turns into a highly functional vibrator. Available in silver, gold, and rose gold, it’s also chic enough to wear just as jewelry. Image may contain: Pendant Crave Vesper $69 Amazon Buy Now The Best Sex Toy for Shower Sex: Je Joue Mio Cock Ring It's high-time we stopped pushing the shower sex agenda, because, really, it’s never as good as you think it’s going to be. Water gets in your eyes, you can’t get enough friction, and you could slip and really hurt yourself. But a select few really enjoy shower sex, and if you or your partner is one of those folks, then go ahead and get this water-proof vibrating cock ring to add even more to the experience.

  Image may contain: Cushion, Tape, Pillow, Indoors, and Room Je Joue Mio Luxury Rechargeable Vibrating Cock Ring $110 Lovehoney Buy Now The Best Sex Toy for Back Door Beginners: b-Vibe Petite but highly efficient, the b-Vibe isn’t your ordinary vibrating butt plug. The device actually replicates the sensation of being rimmed, which, yeah, feels great. Image may contain: Cutlery b-Vibe Remote Control Rechargeable Vibrating Rimming Butt Plug $145 Lovehoney Buy Now The Best Solo Sex Toy That's Also Fun with a Partner: Tenga Flip Zero This sleeve proves that a proper sex toy for men does exist. Bring it into the bedroom to mix things up, or use it for masturbation when you’re not up for company.

  Image may contain: Bottle Tenga Flip Zero $110 Lovehoney Buy Now The Best Classic Vibrator: Le Wand Developed over 50 years ago, the Hitachi Magic Wand is the mother of all vibrators. Over the years, wands have evolved as sex tech has progressed, and Le Wand is now the newest rechargeable take on the old design. Its vibrations are more powerful and its design is more ergonomically effective. If you're going to buy one and only one sex toy to keep in your bedroom, it should probably be this one. Image may contain: Human, Person, and Electronics Le Wand vibrating massager $180$126 Le Wand Buy Now The Best Long-Distance Sex Toy: LOVENSE Osci 2 If you’re in a long-distance relationship then you should consider getting a long-distance sex toy. Using Bluetooth, one partner can control the toy from an app thousands of miles away. The LOVENSE Osci 2 has a curved design developed to hit the G-spot. Once there, it rapidly oscillates back and forth to (hopefully) create a body-shaking orgasm.